Even though your partner is not interested or is doubtful that there is a problem, there are things that you can do in order to save your marriage if you find that it is going downhill. If you feel like you are going down a road headed for filing for divorce, this can not be taken lightly and you must start today to improve your marriage and life together.
All marriages are different but to maintain a healthy and happy relationship they all require the same things. Couples need openness and honesty in their communication, the ability to forgive, a willingness to make time for each other, acceptance, and of course, love. To be a healthy marriage, the couple needs to have good communications. Resentment can come when a partner is not open and honest and holds those feelings inside. It is impossible for your partner to know if there is any problem when communication does not happen. He or she should not hesitate to say, in a respectful and non-confrontational manor, if a spouse finds out something that they do not like about the relationship.
Without the element of forgiveness, a marriage cannot survive without it. Holding on to past hurts or betrayals will slowly eat away at you and your love for your spouse. If you are willing to understand that it was a mistake what they did to hurt you and you are accepting that they are sorry for what happened, forgiveness towards them does not mean that you should forget or that you condone the hurful behavior. Don't let your desire for revenge or stubbornness get in the way of a happy marriage.
Show your spouse that you care for them by having a willingness to make time for them. Leave the responsibilities of life behind and spend some time together and that will make the bond between you stronger.
Every marriage must have these two things, acceptance and love. You must always show acceptance for your spouse for who they truly are inside. It's no big deal if dishes are in the sink, maybe they are just messy. If they are a neat freak, you can deal with them pushing a mop around your feet. You married your spouse for a reason and they are not going to change after the wedding day. You show the love for your spouse by the acceptance of them. True love is the acceptance of who they are on the inside and the love for that person. We get used to treating a person a certain way after years of marriage and it may be hard to remember how a person should be treated. If you truly loved your spouse, wouldn't you give them all of the support that they needed even if they don't support you in the way that you need? Talk to your spouse respectfully even if they don't show you the same courtesy, because that is what you do if you truly love someone. Stop looking for your spouse to treat you the way that you think that you deserve to be treated. Love is about doing what is best for the person you love. Your spouse will eventually follow your example and show their love for you in the best way they know how.